How have you changed since you accepted Christ's gift of salvation? There are several ways to see that a person is new in Christ. One is evidenced in growth in fruit of the Spirit. See Galations 5;22. "..the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control." Of course, this is a short list of the attributes of a Christian, or rather becoming more Christl-ike. I'm reading a book called "Love as a Way of Life" by Gary Chapman. It lists several ways of loving others, including several from the Fruit of the Spirit list. There are a lot of ways to grow in Christ. Others should be able to see your growth in Christ-likeness. But I believe you should also be aware of your own growth. You are the only one who knows about ill-feelings you may be harboring against someone. That is not to say that it isn't obvious to other people but only you know the depth of ill feelings you have for someone w...