Oftentimes, we say we live by the Golden Rule, then quote "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." Do you know that isn't in the Bible?  It isn't. At least it isn't in the translations I looked at. I believe that somehow we took "Love your neighbor as yourself", which is in the Bible, spoken by Jesus (See Matthew 22:39 ), and turned it into "Do Unto Others.... Those two sentences do not mean the same thing. For example, just because I'd like this thing or that thing done for me, does not mean that others would want the same thing done for them.  What we need to do is to watch for things that others need or want or like and do those things.  This takes more time and effort. It means you need to pay attention to them in much more detail. You really have to care enough to take the time to notice (and remember) things that would make another person feel loved. This is closer to what Jesus said. His commandment wasn't as self-ce...